Are you playing small?

Happy Monday. I have a series of questions for you. These are questions that I started asking myself because I felt like something was missing in my life. Having spent most of my life coasting along, not living up to my full potential, I decided to bite the bullet. To be brave and get up close and personal with my reality. The results have been immense.

Marianne Williamson is a celebrated spiritual leader, author and lecturer and she states the following

“Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”

  • Do you consider yourself to be living to your full potential?
  • Do you dream big and visualize achieving massive things in your life?
  • Do you have dreams and goals that make the hairs on the back of your neck stand on end?


  • Are you selling yourself short because you don’t feel that you can make an impact?
  • Do you feel that you do not have a voice?
  • Are you struggling to identify your unique selling point?


What can you do to step up and start living bigger?

  • Show up fully in life, be unreservedly, authentically YOU. Realize that you absolutely have a talent or a message to share with the world. Identify what your burning desire is and shine your light on everyone who you meet. (This clearly takes self-belief and building up your confidence which will be explored in subsequent posts.)authentic
  • Don’t worry about what people think of you. The ego makes us question our worth and the impact that our presence has on others. Our higher, best version of  ourself recognizes that we add value to this world, have talents and power within us that will lead to greatness if only we take time to tap into it.


  • Surround yourself with successful people, people whose achievements make you want to emulate their success and grow as a person. You are the average of the five people who you associate with. Consider who those five people are in your life and how they influence your behaviour.


  • Be open to new possibilities. Having an open mind about new opportunities that come your way broadens your horizons. Instead of saying NO to something because you are afraid of how you will be perceived or allowing misconceptions to cloud your view, be at least open to a conversation so that you can make an informed decision.parachute
  • Use your imagination. When we grow up and leave childhood behind, we seem to lose our capacity to daydream. Daily visualization is just that, daydreaming. However as a conscious adult, you now have the opportunity to make those dreams a reality. Give yourself permission to let your imagination run wild.


  • Whatever you focus your attention on expands. Focus on the good stuff! Energy flows where attention goes.


  • Have a clear image of what your future best version of yourself looks like and bridge the gap between your current reality and that optimal version of yourself by investing in your development.
  • Listen to your self-talk. Use your language intentionally. Eliminate “I’ll try, it’s just me, I’m only” this or that.
  • Create a vision board filled with amazing images that excite you and make you a little bit nervous.
  • Have a clear WHY. What is your mission and why do you want to achieve it. Rather than focusing on the how, work out what drives you to achieve your goals.


  • As human beings, we are made up of many layers. Think Pies:





If we attend to each aspect of our beings, we will show up in life optimally and rather than being a shrinking violet, you will be best placed to make an impact and show up as a grounded, well-rounded individual. Of course development in each of these areas is not a static process, therefore regular daily attention to each is necessary in order to live an enriched life.

You can have, be and do whatever you wish to be if you develop the right mind-set, make the necessary investment in yourself and “feel the fear and do it anyway” as the late Susan Jeffers admonishes us.


Seek advice from those who are absolutely undeniably playing big and then give yourself permission to do the same. We compile so many false stories about or life and about our capabilities and this leads to blocks and us retreating inwardly and thus playing small. Write some goals (we all know that a goal that is not written down is merely a dream) and Plan, review and improve. If you do not know what you are focusing on, how can you ever expect to hit the target?


Get out of your own way. Banish the self-limiting beliefs. Get out of your head and connect with your heart. Believe that you can achieve your vision. Once you have a written set of goals, adopt a can do mind-set and consistently get to work on actions aligned with that plan, success will be the by-product.


Believe in yourself. Repeat after me “I am  significant”. “I am worthy” and “I am more than enough”.


Let go of fear and anything else that holds you back

John O’Leary – inspirational leader and author of the book “On Fire” explains:

“Instead of operating from a place of fear, driven by what I could get, I tried living from a place of love, seeking opportunities for what I could give. Letting go of the desire to not lose, you win, that in releasing the need to be wrong, you’re right”.

Call to Action: Now is the time to start. It is your time and it’s time to stop playing small and play big instead.It’s time to create the life that you deserve. Still don’t know how?

Contact Me: For a free 45 minute session to engage in a conversation to identify ways that you could dream bigger and as a result play bigger. We can identify ways in which you can start fulfilling your potential.

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Tel: +44 333 224 0356


Make a start on creating your vision and living the life of your dreams on your terms.